Handkerchief code or hanky code (also known as bandana code and flagging) is a way of indicating, usually among gay male casual sex-seekers or BDSM practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada and Europe, whether they are a top or bottom, and what kind of sex they are seeking, by wearing color-coded handkerchiefs (bandanas), usually in the back pocket. The hanky code was widely used in the 1970s as a "secret" gay code that was intended to go unnoticed by non-gays, but general awareness of the code has gone increasingly mainstream. |
Worn on left | Colour | Worn on right |
heavy SM dominant | ![]() |
heavy SM submissive |
likes to take videos/pictures | ![]() |
likes to be in videos/pictures |
likes black submissives | ![]() |
likes black dominants |
safe sex dominant | ![]() |
safe sex submissive |
likes to milk / milker | ![]() |
likes to be milked / milkee |
likes to bite | ![]() |
likes to be bitten |
latex / rubber dominant | ![]() |
latex / rubber submissive |
business suit fetish dominant | ![]() |
business suit fetish submissive |
bondage dominant | ![]() |
bondage submissive |
voyeur (likes to watch) | ![]() |
exhibitionist (likes to be watched) |
wants a handjob | ![]() |
will provide a handjob |
rimmer | ![]() |
rimmee |
ejaculates into condoms | ![]() |
drinks ejaculate from condoms |
likes to spit | ![]() |
likes to be spit at/on |
likes asian submissives | ![]() |
likes asian dominants |
is well endowed | ![]() |
likes well endowed men |
likes to urinate / watersport dominant | ![]() |
likes urine / watersports submissive |
two people looking for a third | ![]() |
wants to be in a threesome |
is chubby | ![]() |
is seeking a chubby person |
smokes cigars | ![]() |
likes cigar smokers |
wants toes / feet worshipped | ![]() |
likes to worship feet / toes |
up for anything | ![]() |
not up for anything at the moment |
two-handed fister (giver) | ![]() |
two-handed fistee (receiver) |
blood fetishist dominant / cutter | ![]() |
blood fetishist submissive / bleeder |
fister (giver) | ![]() |
fistee (reciever) |
nipple torture dominant (giver) | ![]() |
nipple torture sumbissive (receiver) |
spanking fetish dominant / spanker | ![]() |
spanking fetish submissive (spankee) |
dildo dominant (giver) | ![]() |
dildo submissive (receiver) |
likes drag queens | ![]() |
is a drag queen |
navel worshipee / dominant | ![]() |
naval worshipper / submissive |
armpit worshipee / dominant | ![]() |
armpit worshipper / submissive |
piercer / piercing fetish dominant | ![]() |
piercee / piercing fetish submissive |
fucker / dominant | ![]() |
fuckee / sumbissive |
police uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
police uniform fetish - submissive |
likes 69 position oral sex | ![]() |
anything but 69 position oral sex |
wants oral sex | ![]() |
wants to perform oral sex |
naval uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
naval uniform fetish - submissive / likes sailors | - submissive
seeking oral sex from caucasians | ![]() |
likes to perform oral sex on caucasians |
seeking oral sex from asians | ![]() |
likes to perform oral sex on asians |
seeking oral sex from latinos | ![]() |
likes to perform oral sex on latinos |
seeking oral sex from blacks | ![]() |
likes to perform oral sex on blacks |
air force uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
air force uniform fetish - submissive / likes fly boys |
aquaphilia (sex in water) dominant | ![]() |
aquaphilia (sex in water) submissive |
cock and ball torturer (cbt) dominant | ![]() |
cock and ball torturee (cbt) submissive |
military uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
military uniform fetish - submissive / likes servicemen | /
military uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
military uniform fetish - submissive / likes servicemen |
performs sex for food / hustler | ![]() |
buys food for sex / john |
hustler / for rent / sex for money | ![]() |
john / buyer / pays for sex |
daddy / dominant | ![]() |
orphan/child / submissive |
geek / nerd worshipee / dominant | ![]() |
geek / nerd worshipper / submissive |
military uniform fetish - wearer / dominant | ![]() |
military uniform fetish - submissive / likes servicemen |
scat dominant | ![]() |
scat submissive |
seeking a latino submissive | ![]() |
brown with
seeking a latino dominant |
has foreskin / uncut / dominant | ![]() |
likes foreskin / submissive |
headmaster / roleplay dominant | ![]() |
student / roleplay submissive |
extreme sex - taboo / dominant | ![]() |
extreme sex - taboo / submissive |
cowboy worshipee / gear - dominant | ![]() |
cowboy worshipper / gear - submissive |
blood fetishist dominant / cutter | ![]() |
blood fetishist submissive / bleeder |
park / public sex dominant | ![]() |
park / public sex submissive |
motorcycle gear dominant | ![]() |
motorcycle gear submissive |
yiffee / animal roleplay dominant | ![]() |
yiffee / animal roleplay submissive |
tattoo fetish worshipee /dominant | ![]() |
tattoo fetish worshipper / submissive |
boxer short fetish dominant | ![]() |
boxer short fetish submissive |
muscle worshipee / dominant | ![]() |
muscle worshipper / submissive |
celebrity / star fetish dominant | ![]() |
celebrity / star fetish submissive |
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