contracts & protocols

A fill-in D/s agreement you can print, protocol ideas and check-in templates

Some people write their power exchange down. A contract or a set of protocols gets everyone's expectations out in the open, and it gives you something to come back to when things change. Fill in the agreement below together and print it, or use it as a starting point for your own.

A kink contract is a personal agreement, not a legal contract. A court won't enforce it, it isn't a legal defence if someone gets hurt, and it can't take away anyone's right to say no, stop, or leave. A written agreement could still be seen by others, including in a court case, so keep it private and leave out anything you wouldn't want read. Everyone involved must be an adult (18 or over) and able to consent. See our legal policies.

why write it down

It makes you talk. Writing it forces the conversations you might otherwise skip, like what happens when someone's unwell or when you disagree.
It sets an end date. A trial period and a review date make it safe to try something and adjust it.
It protects both of you. The submissive's limits and rights are written down as clearly as the dominant's authority.
It's never a trap. Either person can end the contract at any time, with no penalty and no need to explain why.

d/s agreement

Fill this in together, then print it or save it as a PDF. Your answers stay in this browser and are never sent to us. Leave out anything that doesn't apply.

Dominant / top submissive / bottom Date

1. purpose

We enter this power exchange freely, as consenting adults, because we want to:

2. term

Trial starts Trial ends First review Then review every

3. scope

The Dominant's authority covers:

scenes only evenings and weekends at kink events agreed areas of daily life 24/7, within the limits below

Not covered

4. limits

Hard limits (never) Soft limits (discuss first)

Our yes / no / maybe lists are part of this agreement.

5. safewords & signals

Stop Slow down Non-verbal signal

Either of us may use these at any time. Using them is never punished.

6. the submissive agrees to

7. the dominant agrees to

Respect every limit and safeword, look after the submissive's physical and emotional wellbeing, provide aftercare, and listen when concerns are raised.

8. rules & protocols

Forms of address Rituals & positions Service & tasks Rules & permissions

Protocol levels

9. punishment

Nobody is ever punished for using a safeword, stating a limit, being unwell, or giving honest feedback.

10. health & safer sex

11. privacy

12. check-ins

after every scene weekly monthly

13. ending the agreement

Either of us may end this agreement at any time, for any reason, by saying so. No penalty, punishment or debt follows. We will try to talk it through respectfully, and arrange aftercare if needed.

Dominant

submissive

Date

gayfetishgoth.com/resources/contracts-protocols.php · A personal agreement, not a legal contract. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and either person may end this agreement whenever they choose.

protocol ideas

Protocols are the agreed rituals and rules that make power exchange feel real day to day. Start with a few and add more slowly.

forms of address

Titles like Sir, Master, boy or pup, used in private, at events, or everywhere you've agreed.

rituals

A greeting, kneeling at the start of a scene, putting on or taking off a collar, or a goodnight message.

service

Boot blacking, cooking, chores, or caring for gear, done to an agreed standard.

positions

Named positions for waiting, inspection and presenting, taught and practised.

permissions

Asking before coming, wearing certain clothes, or making certain choices. Keep these to areas the contract covers.

levels

High, medium and low protocol for different settings, like home, a play party, or dinner with vanilla friends.

Punishment, if you use it, should be agreed in advance, kept proportionate, and never used for safewords, limits, health problems or honest feedback.

check-in templates

AFTER A SCENE (the next day)
- How are you feeling, physically and emotionally?
- What was the best part for you?
- Was there anything you didn't like, or want to do differently?
- Did anything hurt in a way it shouldn't, or leave a mark you weren't expecting?
- Did you get the aftercare you needed? Do you need anything now?
- Anything you want to try next time?

WEEKLY CHECK-IN
- On a scale of 1 to 10, how are we doing this week?
- Which rules or protocols are working? Which feel like a chore?
- Anything you need more of, or less of?
- Has anything changed: health, work, stress, other partners, limits?
- Is there anything you've been holding back from saying?
- Anything to add to or take out of the agreement?

AGREEMENT REVIEW (at the end of the trial, then regularly)
- Do we both still want this? Do we want more, less, or something different?
- Go through each section: keep, change, or remove?
- Are the limits still right? Any new hard or soft limits?
- Is the Dominant meeting their side of the agreement? Is the submissive?
- When is our next review?

Every check-in has one rule: honesty without punishment. Nothing said in a check-in is a reason to be punished. Pair these with our yes / no / maybe list.

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