Ommer is a gender-neutral family title used as an alternative to “aunt” or “uncle.” It is most commonly used by or for nonbinary people, though anyone may choose to use it. People may also use "pibling" to describe the same general family role, though people may prefer one term over the other based on personal, cultural, or community preference.
An omner may appear as a relationship label, chosen-family title, or role within family-based roleplay dynamics. It is most common in queer and nonbinary communities. The term itself is not BDSM-specific, though some people may use it within incest play or family roleplay contexts.
Origins of the Term
The term appears to derive partly from “emmer” (a gender-neutral sibling term based on pronouns like em/eir) and partly from family-related words in various languages that use “om,” “oma,” or similar sounds for older relatives.
