gay kink resources.
GFG grew out of gay men's kink, leather and fetish culture, and it has always tried to be the page we wish we'd had when we started. Free guides, no sign-up, nothing to buy. Whether you're curious, brand new or years into the scene, this is the map of everything here. Pick whatever you need, and come back whenever.
General information for adults, not medical, legal or mental health advice; see our legal policies. Everyone across the LGBTQIA+ spectrum belongs here.
new here
If you're just starting to figure out your sexuality, your gender or your kinks, start with these.
- New to gay kink or questioning? Start here: a five-step path through identity, kink, health, community and feelings.
- Questioning & coming out: working out who you are, and telling people when you're ready.
- Introduction to BDSM: the basics of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism.
- The exploration wheel: spin it to discover kinks you may not have heard of.
- Resource finder: search every guide on the site by topic, on our home page.
learning kink safely
consent & negotiation
playing safer
tops, bottoms & partners
sexual health & wellbeing
- Gay men's sexual health: PrEP, PEP, DoxyPEP, U=U, STI testing, vaccines and chemsex harm reduction.
- Chemsex & PnP harm reduction
- Living with HIV: treatment, disclosure, dating and kink after a diagnosis.
- Kink shame & mental health: internalised homophobia, minority stress, body image and loneliness.
- Disability, ageing & bodies in kink
- Kink-aware therapists, doctors & lawyers
identity & relationships
- Trans & nonbinary basics
- Bisexual & pansexual (bi+)
- Asexual & aromantic in kink
- Intersex basics
- Family, faith & culture
- LGBTQ+ & kink rights
- Race in gay & kink spaces: QTPOC and Two-Spirit
- Women in leather
- Older & out
- LGBTQ+ asylum & moving abroad
- Sex work & pro kink
- Kink privacy online
- Sexual orientations, genders and relationship styles dictionaries
community & culture
- Finding gay kink & LGBTQ+ community: munches, leather and bear clubs, sober spaces and online groups.
- Fetish etiquette: how to behave at bars, parties and play spaces.
- Gay leather history & culture
- Gay kink & leather events calendar: IML, Folsom, CLAW and more.
- Pup play
- Queer goth culture
- Reading & watching list
- Gay culture dictionary and kink holidays
kink dictionaries & codes
Hundreds of terms, written in plain language, with links between related entries.
codes & colours
links: groups, resources & shops
Hand-picked outside sites, checked regularly.
- Resources: sexual health, advocacy, history and archives.
- Communities: clubs, groups and online spaces.
- Shopping: fetish gear, leather and toys.
if you need help now
If you're struggling, feel unsafe, or are having thoughts of harming yourself, please reach out. Our support & crisis lines page lists free, confidential services by country, including LGBTQIA+ and trans lines.
Under 18? This site is for adults, but these LGBTQ+ youth services are there for you.
